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I hope you can forgive my typos because I’m tying this through tears…please don’t judge.

If you have been following me for awhile you know that my husband and I endured infertility for 7 years before we became a completed family.  Our daughter was adopted and then our son was our miracle baby.  During those years, we experienced 2 miscarriages (that we know of) and months and months of disappointment and pain.  Infertility and loss is something that unless you experience, you truly cannot know this terrible aching pain.  It’s like someone takes your heart, pulls it out, stretches it, steps on it, punctures it and places it back with scares and holes that can never be erased or sealed.  It’s a pain that never leaves you.  You will always wonder about the “what if’s” and the ache will always be there for the baby that you were never able to hold.  Here’s a little peek into the statistics of miscarriages, stillbirths and infant loss.  It’s staggering.  (these statistics were taken from www.hopexchange.com)

  • There are about 4.4 million confirmed pregnancies in the U.S. every year
  • 900,000 to 1 million of those end in pregnancy losses EVERY year.
  • More than 500,000 pregnancies each year end in miscarriage (occurring during the first 20 weeks
  • Approximately 26,000 end in stillbirth (considered stillbirth after 20 weeks)
  • Approximately 19,000 end in infant death during the first month.
  • Approximately 39,000 end in infant death during the first year.
  • Approximately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage; some estimates are as high as 1 in 3. If you include loss that occurs before a positive pregnancy test, some estimate that 40% of all conceptions result in loss.
  • Approximately 75% of all miscarriages occur in the first trimester.
  • An estimated 80% of all miscarriages are single miscarriages.  The vast majority of women suffering one miscarriage can expect to have a normal pregnancy next time.
  • An estimated 19% of the adult population has experienced the death of a child (this includes miscarriages through adult-aged children).

Almost 6 years ago, one of my very best friends from college experienced the loss of a child.  She experienced the pain of childbirth but sweet Grant was born sleeping.  I went through this pain with her and I have watch her continue to suffer and while it’s coming up on 6 years now, the pain is still real for their family.  They also experienced a miscarriage a few years later and now have 2 angel babies.  But, good has come of their pain and they have now started a ministry in Grant’s honor to minister to other families who experience loss. God has also given them a beautiful little girl through adoption.  So yes, the pain of the loss is real but there is life after losses.

Over the years of photographing families, I have been made more aware of stories like this.  I think sometimes we chose to live in a little perfect bubble but families experience loss everyday.  It’s real, it happens and there are stories to tell.

I’ve said from the beginning of my career that I wanted to find a way to use my business to give back and make a difference.  I’ve been searching and this morning God made it crystal clear.  My ministry will be called “Life after Losses.”  I will travel and shoot at least one family a month and share their story.  You see, many of the stories do end in happiness.  Either God blesses them with their own biological child or God grows their family through adoption.  There are happy endings and though the pain is hard and never truly leaves us, joy does come in the morning.  My hope is that these stories will help those who are struggling through the journey and give them peace and comfort.

I will be looking for special families to document on this journey and be apart of this story.  This is real to me.  I have experienced and I have been there.  If I can help someone see that good can come from this trying time in their life it will be worth it for me.  I would like to start this project in Jan of 2016.  Right now my plans are to gift these families with a session but my future goals would be to publish a book sharing their stories, and a non-profit to help with adoption and medical expenses.  God puts us all on this earth for a purpose and I’ve always felt strongly that HE gave me the large following and platform for a reason.  I feel that this is my reason.

Please feel free to contact me and share your story.  My heart is so full today and I’m so glad that my searching is over and I can use my business to help others.

Until next time,

xo,

Julie

  • Amy Fraunfelter - August 1, 2014 - 6:14 pm

    How wonderful ~ God has given you such a beautiful talent. This will be a blessing to so many. I also have a little angel so I know the hurt. God bless you Julie.ReplyCancel

  • Jennifer Coggins - August 1, 2014 - 6:18 pm

    Julie,

    I would be happy to share my story and my family with you and have you publish it if you are interested. I, unfortunately, have experienced my share of losses. I had 3 miscarriages before we received the blessing of our first son. I went through various treatments and testing, including daily blood thinner injections, to have the successful pregnancy. We then tried for our second and I had two miscarriages. After the second, we had trouble getting pregnant again. After multiple fertility treatments and the passing of a year, we were able to finally conceive our second son on a month we were taking a break from treatment. In that month before I got pregnant with my now second son, God kept speaking to me through friends’ Facebook posts. For a whole week, several friends were posting scriptures speaking of everything being in God’s time and not our own. It was that month that I was pregnant again. Our second blessing was just born in May.

    This, certainly, is the short version of our story. I would be happy to provide you with the full story if you would like.

    Thanks,
    JenniferReplyCancel

  • Becky - August 1, 2014 - 6:37 pm

    Love this Julie and love your heart! You know our story and through life and loss and now is a period of waiting trying to grow our family. I think this is such an amazing thing you are doing and I know God will bless you and what a blessing this will be for those who benefit from this. <3ReplyCancel

  • Heather Bowser - August 1, 2014 - 6:37 pm

    What a beautiful vision The Lord has given you. I have soon to be 13 children and 6 angel babies. The heart ache from our losses is so painful some days.ReplyCancel

  • Laura - August 1, 2014 - 7:01 pm

    What a blessing for you to be at such a place in your life to both understand and help other families with their ‘lives after loss’ – I imagine these will be the most special and important sessions you will ever do!ReplyCancel

  • rachel - August 1, 2014 - 7:35 pm

    Beautiful. This is something that has become so ‘common’ it seems, as more and more people are telling their stories. What a beautiful gift to give!ReplyCancel

  • Faye - August 1, 2014 - 8:02 pm

    Julie you are beautiful and I hope to have the honor of meeting you someday. I Love your vision here. One of my dearest friends and her husband had fertility struggles for years and they ended up loosing twins at 25 weeks (13 years ago). It was so hard to watch her go through so many highs and some of the lowest lows along the way. Fast forward to today and they have two beautiful healthy girls ages 10 and 7. I had one miscarriage (early…10 weeks) and even though it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through…..It was nothing compared to what some people (including you, my friend and your friend) have been through. I know God always has a plan for each and everyone of us and even though sometimes it’s hard to understand…I always tell myself with time we will see and understand what he has in store. Thanks for sharing this post and your plan to give back to those who are hurting. Big hug to you.ReplyCancel

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Few things rarely happen in California but on this day they both were present.  Rain and cold weather.  And when I say RAIN, I mean RAIN, like POURING rain, flooding rain, NO RELIEF from the rain ALL DAY.  And did I mention with that rain came cold?  YEP.

BUT…

At the end of the day Kimberly and Morgan were married, HAPPY, like REALLY HAPPY, and I was so thankful to have been a part of this beautiful and touching wedding.

I met Kimberly and Morgan when they modeled for me for a workshop last year.  I immediately fell in love with them and practically begged them to let me shoot their wedding! (hehe)  So glad they gave in!:)

I KNEW Kimberly would have amazing style.  I was always following her many trips to thrift stores and knowing her love of vintage, it was going to fab.  Kimberly was a total DIY bride.  She even made the hanging bunting and I’m proud to say that I even have one of them hanging in my cottage!  Seriously, the details from this wedding just made me HAPPY!  I’m pretty sure I squealed when I walked in the door.:)

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Isn’t that vintage cake topper divine??  Oh and the cupcakes were definitely JPP approved!
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Ummm….yes.  It’s a JPP color palette sweet bar!  
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The florals were just AMAZING!
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Kimberly and Morgan are also photographers…I LOVED how they incorporated that in their centerpieces!
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Ummm…cutest photobooth EVER!
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Vintage mint cufflinks for the win!
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She stayed so calm in spite of the rain.  Such a lovely soul she has.
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We had to get creative for the formals.  I stood in the rain, but it was worth it. 
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And sometimes you have to have a first look in the kitchen. Not ideal but I don’t think it bothered these two.  So.much.love.
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And this was the first time I cried that day.  More tears did follow.
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See, it really doesn’t matter if it rains on your wedding day.  Another stand in the rain and photograph for the win. 
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And this was the second time I cried…
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And this is probably one of my most favorite dance pictures EVER.
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So, as you can see, rain did not affect their big day at all.  My heart was bursting and getting this blog post ready just reminded me of how truly awesome my job really is.  Love you Kimberly and Morgan, THANK YOU for asking me to be your photographer.  So proud to call you friends.

Until next time,

xo,

Julie

  • Bobbi - July 31, 2014 - 1:41 pm

    You photograph the most detailed beautiful events of any photographer I follow. Julie, your work is incredible! This wedding is one of my favorites I’ve ever seen EVERRRR! SO much love and passion. That last shot is definitely my favorite. HIgh fives all around!ReplyCancel

  • Jen - July 31, 2014 - 1:43 pm

    Wow! Wow! WOW!! These are ALL fabulous! This wedding looks straight out if the pages of a bridal magazine! I love that last photo!!ReplyCancel

  • Laura - July 31, 2014 - 2:36 pm

    Awesome, awesome details, but my favorite is that very last photo – them thoroughly enjoying themselves on their wedding day. Perfection! :-) ReplyCancel

  • Rose - July 31, 2014 - 3:56 pm

    These are all so beautiful Julie!! <3ReplyCancel

  • Tre Cavil - July 31, 2014 - 3:58 pm

    Love all the amazing colors. Beautiful couple and beautiful photography!ReplyCancel

  • rachel - July 31, 2014 - 4:33 pm

    Oh my word. These. Are. Stunning. The details, the emotions, and I LOVE your black and whites! Beautiful wedding!ReplyCancel

  • Heather Cox - July 31, 2014 - 4:58 pm

    WOW! How amazing was this wedding. Rustic perfection, beautiful details that make perfect images.ReplyCancel

  • shannon - July 31, 2014 - 7:33 pm

    dare i say that the rain might have been a blessing!? that light in the barn in down right perfection!!! i am madly in love with this wedding and the details are phenomenal! they are a magazine worth, gorgeous couple!!!!ReplyCancel

  • maike rinaye - July 31, 2014 - 10:38 pm

    These are so beautiful. Spectacular wedding, spectacular location, and you can’t even tell there’s crazy rain happening. Beautiful work!ReplyCancel

  • Chrissy - August 1, 2014 - 12:51 am

    Woooooow…everything, EVERYTHING, about this wedding is just gorgeous!! The details are incredible (and you’ve captured them beautifully!), and they are such a darling couple!! So much sweet emotion!! I love that they just rolled with the rain and still enjoyed their day to the fullest!! That dancing image is definitely my fave!!ReplyCancel

  • JennyBZ - August 1, 2014 - 1:31 am

    That groom, what a cutie patootie! But then, that bride, holy smoking hot tamale! Her dress is amazing. That first look is absolute perfection! I’m running out of amazing adjectives for this wedding!! Everything is so flipping beautiful! Gorgeous gorgeous job again, as always Julie!!! xxReplyCancel

  • Jyn - August 1, 2014 - 6:03 pm

    This wedding is gorgeous. I love all of the cute details. Such a beautiful couple!ReplyCancel

  • Faye - August 1, 2014 - 7:34 pm

    Man oh man are these two amazingly beautiful! What a gorgeous day! So hard to tell the weather didn’t cooperate…sure didn’t put a damper on the spirit, love, beauty or fun….which you captured awesomely if I might add :) I loved her vintage style! This wedding and the photos need to be published in a magazine FOR SURE! :) ReplyCancel

  • Caitlin L - August 1, 2014 - 8:08 pm

    WOW, this is all so beautiful. Every little detail was captured perfectly. Congrats to them both! And to you for coping with the rain so well!!!ReplyCancel

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Sometimes it does get cold in Florida.  This day in January was one of those days.  In fact, it wasn’t just cold, it was freezing.  YES, these two endured the cold to say their “I do’s” on the beach.

Ashli (the bride) is my sweet cousin.  She and Mike decided they didn’t want a long drawn out engagement and just wanted to have a small intimate wedding with only close immediate family.  I had a wedding workshop retreat planned in January so we decided that we would surprise the attendees with a REAL wedding instead of the styled mock one they were expecting!  Do you know how hard it was for me to keep that  a secret?:) But we did!  I called some of my favorite vendors and going off my boho beach theme, they pulled together the most lovely little wedding ever.  And in spite of the cold, Ashli and Mike said their vows as the sun set on Amelia Island and we were able to be there to capture the magic of it all.

And, I have to add that a few weeks after the wedding, Ashli and Mike found out they are expecting TWINS!  Yes, a boy and girl will join our family this fall.

So, enjoy this sweet little intimate wedding.  It’s special to me and I’m so thankful that God has blessed our family once again.

Until next time,

xo,

Julie

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Venue | Elizabeth Point Lodge
Floral Designer | Shea Hopely Flowers Inc.

Bridal Gown | Davids Bridal
Event Designer | Megan Martin Weddings
Event Rental | Lux Party Rentals

Cake | Sweet-n-Flour

Make-Up | Artistry by Erin

  • rachel - July 1, 2014 - 4:28 pm

    Oh my. These are stunning! The details of this day are gorgeous – and that bride! So beautiful! LOVE your black and whites – and that pic of the bride standing by the window – PERFECTION!ReplyCancel

  • Lindsay - July 1, 2014 - 4:37 pm

    Stunning! Love the colors and of course all of the images. Stunning… Absolutely stunning!ReplyCancel

  • Melissa Yocum - July 1, 2014 - 4:52 pm

    SO SO GORGEOUS!! And what a fantastic surprise! These are beautiful, every one!!ReplyCancel

  • Bobbi - July 1, 2014 - 5:31 pm

    The flower head piece?! I’M IN LOVE! They clearly picked the perfect photographer to match their personal style… you are just the best Julie… THEEEE BESSSST! :D ReplyCancel

  • ashley - July 1, 2014 - 5:38 pm

    What a beautiful wedding!!!! All of the images are gorgeous and SO dreamy!!!ReplyCancel

  • Cris Passos - July 1, 2014 - 6:04 pm

    Julie, these are stunning!!!!ReplyCancel

  • Laura M - July 1, 2014 - 8:21 pm

    Every single image is breathtaking! Wow!ReplyCancel

  • Jen Crowe - July 1, 2014 - 10:50 pm

    Oh my gosh!!! These images take my breath away! Absolutely stunning processing! Love every single image!ReplyCancel

  • Molly - July 1, 2014 - 11:20 pm

    Julie, you are so very talented and you are a miracle worker with detail photos! Your processing is lovely and your posing is perfect. Congratulations to your family on all of these beautiful milestones! :D ReplyCancel

  • Brooke - July 2, 2014 - 2:42 am

    These are gorgeous photos! You can’t even tell it was cold outside. What a beautiful bride and so many beautiful details!ReplyCancel

  • jamie - July 2, 2014 - 5:13 am

    Amazing as always!ReplyCancel

  • Christina Corneau - July 2, 2014 - 1:48 pm

    Love this! Perfectly intimate! What an adorable couple!ReplyCancel

  • Becky - July 2, 2014 - 1:58 pm

    YAY! I’ve been dying to see more from this wedding. So beautiful Julie!!!ReplyCancel

  • Rachel Elisabeth Lusky - July 2, 2014 - 5:36 pm

    Sometimes it’s hard to believe that your photos are even real. (that is a compliment) ;-) The light and colors and beauty and softness, dreamy and perfect and romantic. Just stunning. Amazing job and perfect wedding – congratulations to the bride and groom!ReplyCancel

  • kim - July 2, 2014 - 6:15 pm

    so beautiful!! this is exactly your kind of wedding!! lovely images!ReplyCancel

  • monica - July 2, 2014 - 7:48 pm

    Just awesome! Beautiful capture !ReplyCancel

  • Jessica Svoboda - July 2, 2014 - 7:57 pm

    absolutely amazing as always. xoReplyCancel

  • Kelly - July 2, 2014 - 7:59 pm

    Oh…my…goodness. Julie, these are just completely stunning. Major swoonage over here!!!ReplyCancel

  • jennyBZ - July 2, 2014 - 11:27 pm

    oh julie, i always always always look forward to viewing your wedding posts! and this one definitely doesn’t disappoint. you are amazing at what you do. i love that close up dress shot. so pretty. the color palate is just stunning, as is the gorgeous bride! beautiful beautiful job!!ReplyCancel

  • Ben - July 3, 2014 - 12:06 am

    sweet tea I love your work so much. You’re style and composition is incredible. Great work on the wedding!ReplyCancel

  • stephanie - July 3, 2014 - 12:37 am

    girl….I don’t even need to say this again…but you’re amazing!!! :) these are gorgeous!!ReplyCancel

  • Stephanie - July 3, 2014 - 4:01 am

    These are gorgeous!! Amazing work as always!ReplyCancel

  • maike rinaye - July 3, 2014 - 1:18 pm

    These are gorgeous. Well done!ReplyCancel

  • Karey Ronnow - July 3, 2014 - 4:38 pm

    Absolutely stunning! Just love all of the little details! Look like they day was simply perfect! What a great surprise for the workshop girls!!! LOVE!! XoXoReplyCancel

  • Sarah - July 3, 2014 - 5:30 pm

    These are so beautiful Julie!! Swooning over that bouquet!ReplyCancel

  • christine d - July 3, 2014 - 6:55 pm

    After seeing some images from this wedding earlier, I have been waiting to see the whole thing. So incredibly stunning! The light, the styling, the beautiful couple…how lucky is she to have you for a cousin and a bunch of other talented photographers photograph her wedding? Nashville is so lucky to have such an amazing wedding photographer in town!ReplyCancel

  • Ronda Wollard Originals - July 3, 2014 - 8:37 pm

    Like a fairytale <3ReplyCancel

  • Chrissy - July 3, 2014 - 10:53 pm

    I’ve always loved your work, Julie, and this wedding is no exception!! What an absolute dream of a day!!ReplyCancel

  • Zach ❤ Sarah - July 4, 2014 - 2:30 am

    What a sweet, intimate wedding! And, WOW with that cake set-up. So great!ReplyCancel

  • Ashley Durham - July 4, 2014 - 1:52 pm

    The light in these is just yummy!ReplyCancel

  • Kerrie Forrester - July 5, 2014 - 1:08 am

    oh my goodness! this is absolutely stunning….the colors are amazing. love how quaint it is with the little table in the sand! i just love everything about it!ReplyCancel

  • destinee - July 6, 2014 - 6:20 pm

    These are so gorgeous! What a beautiful couple. How amazing all the way around. And how fun for your workshop attendees!
    Love these images!ReplyCancel

  • Abbey - July 7, 2014 - 1:45 pm

    OMG – this wedding is STUNNING and you are unbelievable. Seriously amazing photos!ReplyCancel

  • Heather Cox - July 7, 2014 - 4:02 pm

    Julie, You never stop amazing me. This is beautiful in so many ways.ReplyCancel

  • Tammy - July 7, 2014 - 4:32 pm

    These are gorgeous! Your light is just perfection! Amazing, amazing job!ReplyCancel

  • Maggie M - July 9, 2014 - 4:06 pm

    Wowza these are beautiful! The light and the colors, that bride in that dress, every bit of it is gorgeous!!ReplyCancel

  • Rachael Allex - July 10, 2014 - 7:21 pm

    Love the feel of these photos, so whimsical! Looks like they came right out of a fairy tale.ReplyCancel

  • Nicki - July 15, 2014 - 9:21 am

    What a perfectly gorgeous beach wedding! Love all the little details you captured and the light in these makes every photo magical. You did an AMAZING job on this wedding!ReplyCancel

  • Tre Cavil - July 31, 2014 - 4:01 pm

    Great photography! I love small weddings. Cute couple!ReplyCancel

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Sometimes I hate opening up Facebook.

Today has been one of those days.

Why does the photography world have to be so cut-throat.  Why do we have to tear others down in order to make us feel better.   Today I have seen friendships scarred because of online words and disagreements.  I have seen good people called out in public and an all out war started over nothing.  Everywhere you go there is drama, drama, drama.

It needs to stop people.

There are websites and blogs out there bashing people who steal photos or steal wording or don’t give proper credit.  It’s wrong, I get it, but do we have to destroy them over it?  They made a mistake, have you never made a mistake?  I know I have.  It’s amazing to me how people want to throw people under the bus so quickly these days.  Tonight I was made aware of a new place to review workshops.  I know there are bad workshops out there.  I have attended them but I made the mistake once of being vocal about one and I regret it.  I will NEVER talk negative in public about a workshop again.  Some things just need to stay private.  Although it can be a good idea to make people aware of workshops and leave reviews, I still think it can be a matter of opinion.  Just because I might think it wasn’t a good workshop, doesn’t mean the person next to me thought the same.  It might have been life changing for them.  I think everyone should go into any workshop trying to find the positive.  There is always something to learn.  If we could just all start focusing on the positive and not the negatives what a better life we all would live.

We need to have more people standing up again the negativity and less jumping on the band wagon.  I know it’s easy, trust me, I fell into the negative pool today and had to drag myself out soaking wet.  I don’t want to be like the crowd.  I don’t care if I stand alone but I’m going to do my best to somehow stop all this nonsense and get back to what we are supposed to do.  Take pretty pictures, capture memories and make a difference.   I’m tired of being scared.  I’m tired of holding myself back because of the fear of the witch hunt.  It seems that’s the thing now days.  Become a big name in the industry, and then wait for the witch hunt to follow.   It’s so, so sad.

I am a photographer but I am a teacher too.  Part of me wants to quit teaching everyday because of fear.  It’s downright crippling at times, especially in light of what has happened in our industry this year.  What happened to the day where we went to people in private and dealt with our disagreements.  Why do we have air out the dirty laundry on social media?  Bottom line is that no matter how you feel about that person that “did you wrong” they are still REAL PEOPLE.  They have families, they are trying to survive and make it just like you.  They made a bad decision, forgive them and LET IT GO and not ruin their life because of it.

I’m not going to go on and on.  This was just heavy on my mind tonight and I just had to write it out.  Writing is  freeing to me.   I know I’m just one little fish but I wish others would join me and when we see the negative happening, turn around and run.  Don’t encourage it.  It’s easy to be a bully behind the keyboard but those words hurt.  Try to remember that.

Until next time,

xo,

Julie

  • Ruth - June 25, 2014 - 3:00 am

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart! I can relate to a lot as I have been wanting to get a FB page and website up since the beginning of the year and haven’t out of fear. Fear of the critique, fear of not being good enough, etc… Reading this was both inspiring and encouraging.. Now let’s see if I can get that page up.. ❤️

    Xoxox

    RuthReplyCancel

  • E - June 25, 2014 - 3:15 am

    While I agree about stopping negativity, I don’t think it’s unfair to give an honest and fair review of a workshop, pointing out both the pros and the cons. Workshops cost thousands of dollars; they are just as much an investment as photography or equipment. And there are several workshops I would not have attended had I known more information about them. I agree that we should find the positive, but it’s hard not to give others a heads up about what to expect when you’ve invested thousands of dollars on the workshop, travel, food, renting gear, etc., only to find it wasn’t work your investment at all. It’s difficult and heartbreaking, especially since many can’t afford to attend as many workshops as we’d like.

    I also think it could be useful for those who host workshops to find areas of improvement. I can understand why you’d be frustrated, as you do host many workshops, but I think as long as people are civil, this can be a thing for good.ReplyCancel

    • admin - June 25, 2014 - 3:26 am

      I do agree and I will talk in private about a workshop if anyone asks me. I just think sometimes it’s a matter of opinion and we should look at all angles and not just take one person’s word for it. I want my workshop attendees to give me advice on where to improve. I know that I can always improve and each year I try more and more to make the workshops better. I do understand it’s a huge sacrifice to come to a workshop. And yes, being civil and handling people with respect is key. :) ReplyCancel

      • E - June 26, 2014 - 6:33 am

        Julie, I truly wish I had your sense of positivity.I really admire you. I know that it takes an incredible amount of work to go from okay to good and from good to better and from better to great, and hopefully one day to make it to an amazing status. That is why I have invested SO much into my education, gear, software, etc. I truly want to be an amazing photographer. I’m still learning, and I continue to push myself. I also know that the amount of work I’ve gone through pales in comparison to many of the industry leaders. Many of whom put on their own workshops. However, I do believe there are many people out there who know that there is a lot of money in photography and are willing to dishonestly exploit newbie photographers who don’t know any better. I’m not saying it’s right to openly bash someone, but I can’t even tell you the money and time I’ve wasted because I attended a workshop, online class, or even purchased something from a “photographer” site that was not truthful in its initial representation. And honestly, it sucks. And as much as I would love to go back and express my frustration, if I’m being honest, I just wouldn’t feel comfortable. Many of the photographers I’ve done workshops are much bigger in the industry than I am. Who am I to say that there’s something wrong with their workshop? Haha, maybe I’m just afraid of something bad happening in an already somewhat cutthroat industry.ReplyCancel

        • E - June 26, 2014 - 6:35 am

          And I also meant to say thank you for responding to my comment. I appreciate it. :) ReplyCancel

  • Teresa Schmidt - June 25, 2014 - 3:20 am

    It is an awful thing and sometimes yes we get dragged into it and then have to stop and think. I have been nurse for 20 years and it has made me have the most sympathy and empathy that I have ever had. I try to carry that forward to everyday life. I always try to tell other people that there is a reason for everything including behaviors and negativity in people. The person that portrays the negativity may be going through something in their life that we can not ever understand but until they have a life changing moment that wakes them up it may continue. Life is so short so I always try to surround myself with positivity and be thankful for every day I have. I see that you are venting although there is nothing we ourselves can do to change the way others act or speak. We can only wish for them that they will one day be Happy and Thankful for every second they have here because it could be gone in the blink of an eye. It is hard to overlook the cruelty of some people, they must be suffering inside to have to feel that way everyday. I hope you have a better experience tomorrow Julie.. because you deserve it! <3ReplyCancel

  • amy - June 25, 2014 - 4:22 am

    “Take pretty pictures, capture memories and make a difference.”

    Love it!ReplyCancel

  • Ashley - June 30, 2014 - 9:56 pm

    Oh, girl. I agree 100%. I’ve seen this, too. Not naming names, but some of these blogs with Facebook weekly contests are some of the worst offenders. I got kinda into those for a few months, then got added to a private group that touted themselves as “the nice ones against industry bullying & negativity.” Yeah, it turned out to be filled with the absolute most negative, mean people I’ve ever met in my life. They all have huge fan counts on Facebook (which is honestly not an indicator of success, in my experience), and win the contests each week, but they are so cruel. A group of them even made a FB group completely dedicated to bashing a girl they thought had stolen overlays & sold them as her own (which was never proven). I think the group got shut down within the week, but it was shocking to me & it made me feel lonely. Lonely because I’m not like that. And every time I try to have a friend in this industry, it turns out poorly because of drama.
    There was a workshop I considered taking, but I randomly decided to go to the photographer’s personal FB page to see what she was like & she had posted several nasty public comments about other photographers. :( She’s very, very popular, but there’s no way I feel comfortable taking her workshop because I don’t trust her to not say bad things about others.
    This past year I’ve had several features in bigger industry blogs & I’ve gotten lots of out of state bookings & requests to do workshops & mentoring. I’m just terrified. I know that if others want to learn from me, I should teach them. It’s not for anyone to say who can & can’t offer workshops, but I’m still just so terrified of what “people” will say.
    Sorry I wrote so much. I just don’t have anyone to talk to. I’m starting to get 20+ messages per day from other photographers wanting to know what I do, how I do it, what equipment I use, etc & it’s just getting overwhelming to some extent. I don’t know where to draw the line between freely giving info & charging people for classes. And a lot of people get really mean when you don’t answer their messages right away! Even though I make it clear that I’m not just a photographer, but also a student.
    I don’t know, Julie. You don’t know me & I don’t know you, but I just wish there were more of us who truly don’t feed off the negativity & drama. It’s so so so so lonely. I’m starting to feel swallowed up & honestly I want to quit.ReplyCancel

  • Tre Cavil - July 31, 2014 - 4:04 pm

    Great words! You’re a light in a room of darkness!ReplyCancel

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