Something has been heavy on my heart now for quite a while. Being a wedding photographer, I get the privilege of documenting “the best day ever” for so many and while it is amazing and you are truly in love on that day, I have to admit something…
And here it goes…
YES, I LOVED my hubby on my wedding day and I will never forget it but now 20 years later, I truly LOVE my husband in a completely different way.
You see, young love is just amazing. It’s all butterflies in your belly, electric shocks when he touches you, a smile that can melt you in a heart beat and while that is the most wonderful feeling in the world, it’s not really reality. I think that is why the divorce rate is so high. So many people think that if any of that goes away, well, it just means that you are no longer in love. People just have accepted that it happens, you move on and find someone else. This my friend is so, so sad.
Let me be a little honest with you. You see, real love is so much more. For me, real love is when you are at your worst, have gained weight, or received a terrible too short haircut and he still thinks you are the most beautiful person in the world. Real love is when you are puking your guts out but he is there with a cold washcloth to wipe your face all the while he is gagging and trying not to puke himself! Real love is sitting there holding your hand and just being quiet while you cry and question God why you cannot get pregnant and give him a child. Real love is when he overlooks your mess on the side of the bed while it’s totally driving him crazy. Real love is when he sleeps with headphones on because you snore instead of sleeping in the other room. Real love is no matter how many times you change the paint color, he just says nothing and patiently paints it again. Real love is when he quits his job to be a “stay home dad” so that your career can flourish and Real love is when he is willing to go back to work so that you can take a break. I could go on and on but I hope you get the picture. REAL LOVE is not a “feeling” REAL LOVE is action.
If you follow my photography, you will see that my style is very much about emotion and connection and to be honest, my favorite shots are when no one is looking at the camera. I go for the heart, it’s my goal in every session to show just that, pulling out the emotions and getting raw and being transparent…being REAL.
So, with that said, I want to introduce something new that I’ve been waiting until Valentines Day to introduce to you. I know it’s not original, and I have heard of other photographers doing this but I want to offer “Love letter sessions” to married couples. This is important for you, your relationship and to your children. I always take a few pics at my family sessions of Mom and Dad but I want to take this a little farther. A session just for you and him. A session where you read love letters from each other and make lists of what you truly love about that person. A session where you get dressed up and “relive” that moment when you said “i do”. You can be married 1 years or 50, just let me document your love.
Matt and I had the privilege of getting our pictures made this past September and while it is always difficult being in front of the camera, I just cherish these images so much. And, when I look at these images compared to those 20 years ago at our wedding, I see 2 people who defied the odds, made it through hard times together and the love we have now is not always that “giggly feel good love” but it’s so much deeper.
So, contact me today for more info on how to plan your “love letter” session. I’m available here in Nashville or for travel as well. I will end this post with a few pictures of our session taken by the amazing Craig and Eva Sanders while we were in Scotland and a sweet couples session (CLICK HERE) by my sweet friend, Joy Prouty, who has inspired me from Day 1 of my photography journey.
Hug your love one a little tighter today and always remember, Love is an action.
Until next time,